How do you know your partner will make a good parent? Start with pets.
My friend Sofia reported from the NYC dating scene that it’s hard to find a good single man who has a dog or cat. “If a guy is taking care of anything besides himself, that’s a very good sign,” she said.
My dad must agree, because when I met Bob, Dad asked, “Does he have pets?” When I said he’d always had cats, Dad said, “People who love animals are good people.”
After watching Bob take care of C-Biscuit and Machu Picchu, I don’t have any doubts about his parenting. When Biski got spayed last year, Bob even suggested that we could keep the cone collar off of her at night if we “slept in shifts” and alternated watching her sleep. (My reaction? “Cone her. Nite-nite.”)
There was, I admit, one set-back. When we first got C-Biscuit, before I realized she gets car sick, we were driving her to the vet. On Fifth Avenue she barfed half a can of dog food all over Bob, the seat, the gear shift… and he flipped out. To be fair, he had his doubts about my parenting abilities, too, because instead of reining her in or helping to clean up, I was paralyzed by hysterical laughing. ANYway, haha, these things happen.
Otherwise, Bob proved himself over the past four seasons with our little girl(s):
Bob’s friend William lent us his house for a winter weekend. Finally I got all of Biski’s socks and boots on (and sweater and puffy coat), took her outside and just when she started kicking them off, William drove up with his Irish wolfhound. I expected Bob to cringe and even say, “Get those things off of her!” But instead, as William and his (naked!) wolfhound walked up, Bob announced, “We lost one of her boots! And a sock!”